The early days of gray divorce can be quite dark. However, few women move along without missing a beat; they continue to live well and learn to cherish the gifts they hold within and soon bloom large and have a life better than ever! Then there are those whose story is different. Regardless, there's ALWAYS hope.
Women of gray divorce must learn the secret to maneuvering about in the darkness of singleness they've never ever known before in order to find a treasure they've never had before.
It's hard enough to get people in general to believe in their great Creator but there are a host of us who do and lean on Him greatly for everything. However, in the darkest nights of singleness where you cannot see your own gifting anymore, where hope fails to dispel the heavy night and there is no more God to believe (so it seems), you heave in tears and forget that our Help dwells in the darkness where He knew all along you'd be found one day. There is where He (and his special guests Wisdom and Understanding) will speak and say things you could never hear in the light of your wellness... you know, when all things were good; the marriage was in tact, the house stood picturesque on a hill and your Cadillac took you hither and yon. Public transportation wasn't even a thought. Vacations. Shopping. Groceries a-plenty. It was daytime. Night couldn't find you. Oh, but it was looking! It was hidden in those darn divorce papers! As soon as your head sprouted the grey hairs of time and experience divorce crept in and snuffed out the light. And right there in the darkness they stood like straight back watchmen and waited... for you. The funny thing is you never saw them with your spiritual eye. They saw you, heard you, was prepared for you.
In distress there is often blindness, not just because your eyes are filled with tears, but when your hopes begin to float away, your belief system quakes and doubt tries its hand at pulling you toward artificial light; other gods. But there in your darkness truth, new direction and hope waits, but if you're not looking you remain unaware. See, when experiencing grey divorce it's a time to live by what you know for sure, NOT by what you see for now. If you know your God, you'll know He's closest to you because you are brokenhearted; he is most present in the darkness of your new life. A life you might not have seen coming, or you saw it and ignored it. When darkness comes it shudders the soul mostly because we cannot face it head-on. Our norm is not there. Our stability and all we knew for sure got swallowed up there and we can't tell if it'll ever come to us again. What we don't know and cannot see there in the darkness is all that is stored up for us and it only fits into our NEW life. Why? Because it's more than our eyes can behold. In the dark you must open your ears, your heart. Listen in the dark where God dwells. Some call Him the Great Spirit. Fine. Whatever, but listen. If you're cowed down, listen. If you're mournful and sick with grief, listen. There are instructions for life in the dark. Life isn't over. It's beginning again... on a new road, a new path but the directions are in the dark where realism of your Maker dwells.
Listening will save your future and your life.
Nhat Crawford,
Author of Single For The First Time, 2014
Nhatcrawford@gmail.com
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