Single For The First Time? Enjoy!

We all know the destruction of a long term marriage carries grief like nothing else does. We know also that a twenty-five year investment, that gets no return, is devastating. Sure. Worse yet, dragging a fifty-one year old body back onto the dating scene can be frightening. Of course!

So, You Lost Your Comfort Spot... at Fifty!

Before the walls of your comfortable existence blew away you likely felt it coming. Being settled into a thirty-five year marriage has comfort like being in the bathroom taking care of business without a worry in the world. No one wants to be disturbed there on the the ultimate comfort spot atop the ivory throne, for instance! I hope you get my drift without insult. Picture this: The tornado is coming! Sitting there, you feel the house shaking a bit, but you figure, surely it won’t be that bad. It’ll pass over.  Just let me finish what I’m doing for now. I’ll take my time, be thorough and then run—only if I have to. Obviously, you cannot run with pants around your ankles; you might shuffle along, do a little hopping... fumbling. But eventually you will fall. Once you’re on the floor trying to get up, the storm rushes beneath you snatching you up into a wild dizzying spin; your hind parts in the air! Debris is whirling and there is no ducking that will suffice. You’re getting clobbered and injured severely. Maybe the light of your life is being snuffed out, too. And, even if you manage to recover, you will never be the same, think the same, or respond the same. 

When I think of an unprepared, co-dependent older lady facing divorce, that’s one animated vision that comes to mind.  

Over the years this has been the case with grey divorcees, especially religious ones whose second husband was church. If you checked yourself deeply before, during or after your divorce, you actually saw this coming and failed to plan for it; you failed to protect your own best interest. As a result calamity has befallen you. You might have thought it was just your mind having unconscionable thoughts so you resisted such “devilish thoughts.” Yes! It was your mind and you should have followed it! But, since you might not have, hopefully   

SINGLE FOR THE FIRST TIME 

                                                 Over Forty Under Divorce 

 will help you with the important next steps toward thriving as a newly single, mature woman of today.

Nhat Crawford, author

Single For The First Time,

Published by WestBow Press, 2014

Your questions and comments are welcomed here!

 Feel free to contact Nhat: nhatcrawford@gmail.com

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