Before the walls of your comfortable existence blew away you likely felt it coming. Being settled into a thirty-five year marriage has comfort like being in the bathroom taking care of business without a worry in the world. No one wants to be disturbed there on the the ultimate comfort spot atop the ivory throne, for instance! I hope you get my drift without insult. Picture this: The tornado is coming! Sitting there, you feel the house shaking a bit, but you figure, surely it won’t be that bad. It’ll pass
over. Just let me finish what I’m doing
for now. I’ll take my time, be thorough and then run—only if I have to.
Obviously, you cannot run with pants around your ankles; you might shuffle along, do a little
hopping... fumbling. But eventually you will fall. Once you’re on the floor trying
to get up, the storm rushes beneath you snatching you up into a wild dizzying
spin; your hind parts in the air! Debris is whirling and there is no ducking
that will suffice. You’re getting clobbered and injured severely. Maybe the
light of your life is being snuffed out, too. And, even if you manage to recover,
you will never be the same, think the same, or respond the same.
When I think
of an unprepared, co-dependent older lady facing divorce, that’s one animated vision
that comes to mind.
Over the years this has been
the case with grey divorcees, especially religious ones whose second husband
was church. If you checked yourself deeply before, during or after your divorce, you
actually saw this coming and failed to plan for it; you failed to protect your
own best interest. As a result calamity has befallen you. You might have
thought it was just your mind having unconscionable thoughts so you resisted
such “devilish thoughts.” Yes! It was your mind and you should have followed
it! But, since you might not have, hopefully
SINGLE FOR THE FIRST TIME
Over Forty Under Divorce
will help you with the important next steps toward thriving as a newly single, mature woman of today.
Nhat Crawford, author
Single For The First Time,
Published by WestBow Press, 2014
Feel free to contact Nhat: nhatcrawford@gmail.com
overfortyunderdivorce.blogspot.com
Your questions and comments are welcomed here!
Feel free to contact Nhat: nhatcrawford@gmail.com
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Nhat Crawford I just watched a Great episode of friends and neighbors where you were speaking of your divorce experience which I totally emphasize with you whole heartily, I felt so much pain reliving some of the details you mentioned about your situation, it's been 7 mths I've been facing my experience, I'm also fifty and the thought of starting over at this age is devastating to say the least although I'm not divorcedriving as of yet,it seems that it's going to happen,you ladies were on point with everything, there was only one problem I took issue with that you 3 ladies kept saying about how bad men can do women,well,I'm here to tell you,I'm a man and my wife done to me and left me with a broken heart,Spirit,mind,body and soul and throw in despair, so believe me it don't just happen to women,I wouldn't wish my experience on anyone's worst enemy,I truly wish to continue correspondence with you because I'm trying to get to where you are mentally and physically, when there's really no way to really talk to friends about the situation because you know theyre not on the same level and know matter how much they try they cannot truly understand the pain that you and I and others are going through bless you for your testimony.
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