Once we
as parents decide to divorce, we also decide to erect a permanent block in
front of our children that will cause them to struggle for the rest of their
lives. They are stamped with a guarantee to struggle with depression,
rejection, forgiveness, even healing, among other things—if they don’t get help.
Let's face it, the two divorcing parents have caused
a storm and the entire family is getting pummeled, even the teenage or adult children!
At the end
of the storm, watching your children wade through all the gunk, has to be the
hardest part of all of this. Especially if they were still living at home. How do you help them?
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- Can you help your children while trying not to sink, yourself? There is another guarantee here and that is that each child will be affected differently;
- One will be furthest from shore, chin high in the blackest part of this;
- Another will be face-down, gurgling for breath with not much strength to turn himself over to see sunlight; to breathe in a breath of hope;
- Yet another will insist on walking along, matter-of-fact, stepping over the debris of the family destruction, with a belly full of tears and no real answer to speak of. And you won’t be able to tell if he came through this just fine or if he made a pact with time to explode somewhere, years down the road, alongside you!
Nhat Crawford, author
Single For The First Time,
published by WestBow Press, 2014
nhatcrawford@gmail.com
great article.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Jody.
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