Over Forty Under Divorce

 

The world through the eyes of a woman facing the demise of her thirty-year marriage can be large, confusing, and cold. When you’re nearing age fifty and beyond, divorce is an occurrence that seldom finds you prepared emotionally, or financially, especially if you devoted your life to being his wife, and their mother. Regardless, a rare few do welcome the change, and hunker down for the challenge. These are likely to be the more independent, financially astute divorcees who will fare well regardless of marriage, or singlehood. For the average woman who settled into marriage for the long haul, being thrown out of her nest, and landing—splat!—face down onto a new, unyielding pavement, is death while breathing. That is not to say that financially independent women don’t hurt over the loss of their relationships, but let’s face it, money is a comforter. When you have little, or no money, that makes divorce, or the divorcer, a murderer whose punishment for killing you is never severe enough. 

Have you ever heard the story about the frog that was cooked in its own squat? We all know that frogs love water... one day, a frog found its way into a pot of water on someone’s stove and lazily relaxed inside it. Without noticing the frog, someone turned the eye on low under the pot in which the frog squatted. The water began to feel so good to the frog that it couldn’t move. In fact, the frog sunk lower into the water, relishing the warmth of it until all but its eyes was submerged. The warmth soon turned steaming hot as the temperature rose. Instead of jumping out of the water with its powerful hind legs, the frog was cooked in its own squat. Is this you? Was it you? Now what? Let's talk!